Thursday, July 15, 2010

The Seven Levels of Intimacy by Matthew Kelly~★★★★★

Author: Matthew Kelly
Title: The Seven Levels of Intimacy: The Art of Loving and the Joy of Being Loved
Release Date: January 9th, 2007
Publisher: Fireside
Genre: Non-Fiction Self-Help

Book Cover: "We all crave the heartwarming, incomparable connection of intimacy. But oftentimes, this complete, unrestrained sharing of ourselves is too daunting a task. Now, in The Seven Levels of Intimacy, Matthew Kelly explains step by step how to move beyond our fears and experience the power of true intimacy. By achieving each of Kelly's seven levels, we can understand and gain confidence in our partners and ourselves until we are fully able to experience love, commitment, trust, and happiness. 
With profound insight and the use of powerful and relatable examples, The Seven Levels of Intimacy redefines the most important relationships in our lives and how we view our interactions with one another. By finally comprehending and experiencing the great depths of intimacy, we can create the strong connections, deep joy, and lasting bonds that we all long for in our lives."  

Taryn's Review: Sometimes I think self-help books have a stigma about them and that stigma is that no one wants to be seen reading one or checking one out from the library or even *gasp* buying one in the book store! Remember that scene in Sex in the City when Charlotte was embarrassed to buy a self-help book after her divorce? Yeah, I think we all have those feelings at some point. Especially in a society where we are all expected to drive the perfect car, live in the perfect house, have perfect kids, and be in perfect relationships...who wants to admit that maybe things aren't so perfect?

Luckily for me, I don't have an issue admitting that my relationships maybe aren't where I want them to be and this book was an excellent, excellent choice. Matthew Kelly's ideas aren't necessarily "revolutionary," but they are thoughts and actions that we overlook in our daily lives, especially with those people that we love the most (not just significant others, but in all relationships you have).

Kelly began by going over some topics and getting the reader ready for the Seven Levels. I really enjoyed Kelly's writing style. He was incredibly personable in his writing and his words were straightforward, precise, and moving.

The Seven Levels were a huge eye-opener for me. Again, nothing that I couldn't have realized on my own had I really dedicated time to it, but Kelly took the guesswork out of it and you can identify your issues and say, "Okay, that is definitely something I can relate to," or you can recognize some of the behaviors in your own relationships.

Kelly offered help and ideas on how to get past the obstacles that are looming over your relationship and inspired confidence so that you can open up, if not for the relationship, then to make you a better-version-of-yourself (his words).

I would highly recommend this book to anyone, whether single, coupled, engaged, or married. The tips can applied to most relationships, help you analyze yourself, and cause you to ask yourself some tough questions. I would love to buy this book to go back and highlight some of my favorite passages. And the end maybe sappy, but I loved it and even teared up a little! Most definitely consider this book if you feel like you have a relationship (or a few) that could use work or even if you feel like you could use a little perspective.

1 comment:

  1. This was one of the greatest books I have ever read and feel I've always strived to become the best version of myself in the 4 areas of the human person; physical, intellectual, emotional and spiritual!!! The tough part now is finding a man who would want to take the journey with me... this takes discipline, commitment and an understanding of delayed gratification! I loved the model and am living the concept to the fullest. Truly recommend this book and the Rhythm of life as a sequel book also by Matthew Kelly~