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Friday, September 18, 2015

Single by Judy Ford~★★★

Author: Judy Ford
Title: Single: The Art of Being Satisfied, Fulfilled, and Independent
Release Date: September 1, 2004
Publisher: Adams Media
Genre: Non-fiction

Book Cover: "Single is...
...not a condition to be cured...it's just as natural as being part of a couple. Its wisdom is contagious. Its message is powerful.
...a one-of-a-kind book that speaks a universal language to single women everywhere.
...a sometimes funny, sometimes, touching, and always uplifing collection of true-life experiences and practical wisdom that helps you celebrate your single status.
Single is about upholding the most enduring relationship of all: the one we have with ourselves."

Taryn's Review: As a single girl, I don't mind reading books about singledom. In fact...I enjoy it. I think there are so many great books that help people really get in touch with themselves. However, those books are sometimes overlooked because they involve words like "single" or "self-help." Anyone remember Charlotte on Sex and the City and her fear of buying a self-help book in the store? She ended up buying the book online to avoid "humiliation." I have no shame in my game or toward anyone else who loves a good, insightful read!

Something relateable about this book was the fact that the author, Judy Ford, has a personal connection to the mistakes people make during their single years and the trials of being single in a world designed for couples. Ford was widowed at a young age and rebounded from her grief by jumping into a turbulent marriage that ended in divorce, leaving Ford as a single mother without support from her ex-husband. I think this book would be a great gift for someone who was widowed, single parents, widowed single parents, etc. For me as a divorced but childless young woman, it wasn't as connective to my situation. I ended up skipping parts of the book that were devoted to single parents throughout the various stages of their dating lives. 

Ford strove to bring comfort to the reader and to help readers find the joys in their new life situation, but something I hadn't gleaned from the book blurb was that Ford would occasionally relate emotions and feelings back to God. I'm not religious so this wasn't helpful to me, and had the book indicated that it had religious undertones, I probably wouldn't have picked it up in the first place. For example, each section had a "Try This" element. Some suggested activities included, "Take the leap from 'God is punishing me' to 'God is working with me,'" and "Take the leap and keep on praying, 'Dear God, help me to accept love as it is given even though it may not come in the package I requested.'" I am not saying that this book was filled to the brim with religious suggestions, but the ones that were included felt rather assumptive. 

I can't say that I gained any new insightful or helpful material from this book, but it wasn't unpleasant. I grew bored in places where the book didn't fit my situation, but it could be helpful for someone who is experiencing those specific life changes. Some of the suggested activities are good for personal growth, but if you're an avid reader of this genre, you'll probably find them to be redundant. Also, the book was written in 2004 so there is little (if any from what I can remember) information about being single alongside the world wide web. We singles know how much the internet has changed the dating game, so if that is an aspect you are looking for in this type of work, look elsewhere.


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